Over two consecutive nights, i caught two movies with Kai on DVD.

I was watching “High School Musical” with protagonist Troy Bolton and Grabriella. And then i saw the pianist [couldn't remember her name]… she reminded me so much of Janet, whom i first met at a Sayoni party. Anyway, the film is pretty juvenile… if you like musicals, stick to good stuff like Chicago.

And then there is “Hot Chick”, starring Rob Schneider. Common jokes. But i will give it 3.5 stars out of 5… for all their efforts at trying to promote love, opposite sex and same sex regardless.

IndigNation is something like Singapore’s gay pride-month, where you get activities and talks about queer-related issues.

For a list of their events, go to their official website.

Events by Sayoni.com [Or with its members]

Tong bu tong 2- Another tribe
Wednesday, 6 August 2008, 7:30 pm, at 72-13

Brain surgery- what’s inside the heads of homophobes
Tuesday, 12 August 2008, 7:30, at 72-13

Often ignored: the science of sexual orientation
Wednesday, 13 August 2008, 7:30 pm, at 72-13

Queer women within feminist Singapore
Saturday, 16 August 2008, 7:30 pm, at 72-13

If you are sufficiently interested to appear at talks “brain surgery” or “science of sexual orientation”, you will catch me speaking. Other than the above events, i will definitely be attending several others [such as My wife, my kids by SgButterfly].

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Why don’t local stores have Vienna Teng’s CDs?

… ended really badly. [I happened to sit in with Kai who was having it on.]

So Tila chose Kristy over Bo… but Kristy rejected the key because she’s not sure.
Now… I wonder what Kristy is doing on the show when she’s not sure about women?
Isn’t it screaming obvious that the show is all about 30 peeps trying to get Tila as a romantic partner?
The show is about TILA. Not a time for you to figure out your sexuality.

Can you imagine if all the supposedly straight men on the show start wondering if they are gay or if the lesbian women on the show start questioning their sexuality? The show would be a complete flop! And this is the reason why Kristy shouldn’t be in the show!

I don’t really care if the show is real or not. But even as a fictional movie, i would like a decent ending. Not some cock-up like Kristy… whom in my opinion shouldn’t even have her nose in from the start. If you get on the game show, you know the rules to play by! Full stop. [Are you dumb or are you dumb?] The mud slinging in the last episode is totally uncalled for.

If you are wondering whether you should be [behaviorally] bisexual or straight, get off the show~!

*I am not a fan of Tila Tequila. But the folks who had extreme sympathies for the “rejects”, remember the other shows like “The bachelor”. This is a game show and you know before hand that ONLY ONE stands at the end. Which means that the rest will be “rejects”. And all who took part knew this from the start. If they didn’t believe they had a chance to be a reject, they are either too full of themselves or delusional. So why boo at Tila for “breaking” their hearts? She had to for the game to go on!

I am down with influenza… right after the hospital trip i made on Saturday. Even as i sit and type, i am producing all things green- green mucus and green phlegm. [Eeek.]

A straight friend of mine attempted to snuff out her life because of parental rejection.
Eh?- you may wonder- Why straight and rejected?
Because her parents are antiquated in mentality.
Born in China, raised in Hong Kong and Singapore, the only child of extremely traditional parents is now a teacher in the civil service. Acquainted with her spouse to be, also a teacher in the ministry, through the SDU’s dating site, the two were supposed to be married a couple of years back. [They are together for 4 years now.]

Unfortunately, her parents were angry that she did not seek their consent before falling in love… and did not seek their consent before agreeing to his marriage proposal. [What kind of an era are we living in?!] To them it’s disrespect not to acquire permission to fall in love. Along with these expectations, i had the privilege to sit in to her session with the in-house psychologist… and got to know things i never knew. How oppressive her parents were, controlling down to the T. You have to bathe, finish your food, sleep by a certain time… [mind you, my friend is going to hit 30 years of age in a few years] You can’t watch TV serials and you got to be home by 10pm. I knew her parents were strict… but this “strict”? Eventually they threw her out of the house, by confiscating her keys. Told her she’s on her own now. And indeed she is, for all her relatives are not in the country.

Half a year down the road to last week, she decided that maybe life is not worth living. When she was in the hospital, her mother-in-law to be sobbed when i commented that at least she is loved by her in-laws. The lady in her fifties said she has never seen parents like that. All SMS were ignored, with the exception of the final one asking if they would visit her. The message to say that she was hospitalized was met with harshness. Even a call from in-laws was met with sarcasm.

As i was scrolling through the 18 messages long SMS, tapping on whatever Chinese i have left in my proficiency, i was amazed at how strikingly similar her dad and my mum are. Her dad is worse though! I am convinced that in such exchanges, parents like to say that they are hurt beyond repair… and it doesn’t matter whether you are hurt or not because their feelings are priority. Her father believed that her attempt was to forcibly push them into accepting her behavior. [Similarly, my mum thinks i am trying to push her into accepting my sexuality through my last outburst.] Sometimes i think they are trying to evade responsibility for what they have indirectly contributed to. So they “counter-attack” by making an accusation on you.

The message went on to say how they had planned for a good life for her but she had chosen the off-beaten track. And thus, she has to face the “consequences” on her own- to my bewilderment and hers. For the only unhappy event in her life… is her parents’ rejection. The “consequences” were their cold shoulders and vitriolic because she hadn’t done things their way. If this is not tyranny under the guise of “this is all for your good”, i don’t know what is. It’s a good life she’s having… drawing a salary that is high for the few years she has been in the profession, acquiring a respectable partner, possessing decent friends… and gotten a house. If you ask me, she’s progressing the way most heterosexuals want to: being parents with combined salary of at least 10K, a decent home with kids.

Rejection from the family hurts… no matter the reason behind it. Is the focus on the family just another structure to keep you “in place” and “under control”?