Posted in Relationships on July 3, 2008 | 1 Comment »
… doesn’t happen in the beginning.
It happens after 1.5 years…
AFTER you have discovered how each other responds over a variety of situations, gotten used to these responses, thrash out the issues [thrash out ≠ resolved] and if you can still endure being a few feet of each other, honeymoon starts.
Then heaven comes down for a [...]
Posted in Relationships, Set Anj thinking... on June 23, 2008 | 4 Comments »
Longevity of a relationship… should not be the focus, but should come as a by-product of both parties enjoying the relationship.
What is longevity [quantity] without enjoyment [quality]?
A relationship exists in so far as romantic attraction persists.
Without it, the romantic relationship has passed on to something else, such as platonic friendship [in which you have friendship [...]
Posted in LesbianGayTransgenderBisexualQueer, Relationships on June 23, 2008 | 1 Comment »
Listening to a friend’s story, i marvel at how some couples survive without talking about what they like or do not like.
Before getting together with anyone…
Common mine fields should be scouted and carefully navigated.
Mine fields are anything you feel strongly about and which has been controversial/problematic in your past relationships or other people’s relationships. The [...]
Posted in Relationships on April 11, 2008 | No Comments »
In conversation:
“She promised she will love me forever! But in the end, she left!” she scoffed.
I looked at her, recalling the turbulent relationship, in which the love reciprocated was unbalanced.
“You did say that you didn’t treat her very well right? Perhaps at that time when she said it, she meant it?”
“Ya, but she promised. A [...]
Posted in Relationships on April 7, 2008 | No Comments »
[JF 1101 stands for "Jealous Freaks" introductory module. A module specially crafted for jealous freaks to control their partners. Note that results may vary according to partners' characteristics.]
1. Focus on a specific person and compare yourself to her/him
“Why is she/he so important to you? Why can’t you drop her/him as a friend for my sake? [...]
Posted in Relationships on February 4, 2008 | No Comments »
Signs that your girlfriend is likely not for real [not ready OR not planning to commit]:
1. She refuses to change her status on Fridae.com to “In a monogamous relationship” without good reason, and accuses you of not trusting her commitment towards you.
2. She’s perfectly fine not talking to you for 3 days in a row, [...]
Posted in Anj Facts, Relationships on January 28, 2008 | 9 Comments »
Anj is a green-eyed monster.
Okay… before the rest of you start scurrying away as quick as those legs can carry you… From my earliest serious relationship, i have been possessive. It doesn’t show up very much, because partners were either more possessive or i didn’t have reason to be. I protected myself as much as [...]
Posted in Girlfriend Kai, LesbianGayTransgenderBisexualQueer, Relationships on January 19, 2008 | 5 Comments »
Our keychains:
The one on the left looks androgynous enough!
And they are magnetic… at the lips.
Talk about not getting enough of each other…
Posted in Relationships on December 19, 2007 | No Comments »
I will love you forever and ever…
IF
you remain faithful you behave like an angel not the devil you stay in shape i.e. slender you spend quality with me you look beautiful you stop having mood swings we are compatible in terms of status you control your temper you better dress well you don’t get on [...]
Posted in Relationships on October 24, 2007 | No Comments »
For those who don’t understand gu niang lingo.
If she says…
“Don’t try too hard.”
It really means, “Do it because you love me, not because i ask you to.”
If she gives you options…
“You can see me or if you are too tired, you can go home.”
It really means, “See me because you want to see me… in [...]
Posted in Relationships, Set Anj thinking... on October 21, 2007 | No Comments »
Past two in the wee hours of the morning and this topic was brought up: People who are in love with the idea of romance.
How do we differentiate between someone who really loves you and someone who’s merely in love with the idea of romance?
It’s not easy.
Many people probably marry the two- seeking out someone [...]
Posted in Relationships, Set Anj thinking... on October 4, 2007 | No Comments »
Friend A: “I thought you are attached?”
I: “No, i am still dating.”
Friend A: “Is it exclusive? … Then how is that different from being in a relationship?”
Friend B: “You are attached too.”
I: “No, we are dating.”
Friend B: “… you have weird boundaries.”
Friend C: “So, how do you know you have crossed the line from dating [...]
Posted in Relationships, Set Anj thinking... on September 28, 2007 | No Comments »
My goodwill (as defined below) is unconditional.
But my sense of attachment to a person… can be (and had been) undermined.
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29 Aug 2007: Anj’s philosophy towards Relationships
Two independent, whole persons coming together to share their lives together.
If i think i can’t live without that someone, it means that i am in “need”. Choice no longer [...]
Posted in Relationships on September 26, 2007 | No Comments »
Friend: I spoke to J some time ago. She sounded like she has really repented.
I: … just some days ago, she told Kai to meet her without my knowledge… and she wanted to meet Kai at Kai’s place…
Friend: Maybe she really likes Kai.
Ya… i completely understand…
It’s a good thing that this time round, the one [...]
Posted in Anj Facts, Relationships on September 12, 2007 | No Comments »
Maybe it’s a time i should start a category “What talk ME?!”… so that i have plenty of space for self-deprecation and mockery. I still love myself. But some of my mindsets have “ridiculous” emblazoned on it. I am irritating and annoying myself… yet again.
In conversation:
I: “If my partner finds someone else more attractive than [...]
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